There are literally thousands of
couples who choose to have tubal ligation reversal surgery in order
to have fertility restored. The most common reason for researching
and undergoing this type of surgery is due to a prior tubal ligation
and a new relationship. Often, the new spouse may not have children
of his own. The wife having a previous tubal ligation or tubes tied
would like to have fertility restored in order to have another child.
There are some couples who seem to face
problems when deciding to have the
tubal reversal surgery. The
problem is these couples often cannot tell those within their own
family because of rude comments that are made. Yes, this couple may
have children from a previous marriage but they want nothing more to
than to have one of their own. So, in order to deal with not having
to hear the remarks these couples are forced to keep the secret to
themselves. If you're a couple going through this you are far from
alone.
Some of the comments made from other
people can be as follows;
Why do you need a tubal reversal?
Don't you to have enough children?
Why do you want to start all over
again?
Are you two going to be able to
afford this?
Can't you just be happy with the
children you have?
Are you really sure this is
something you want to do?
Unfortunately, the above comments are
just a small sample of what is said to many couples. The truth is you
are not having a reversal in order to please others. You and your
partner have chosen to have a reversal in order to have a child
together. This is a personal decision that does not need to be
approved by others. If you are good parents and take care of your
children and supply for them who is to judge? There will always be
people in this world that have to interject with their personal
opinion whether good or bad. Just remember they are not the one in
your shoes and not the ones living your lives. As a couple you need
to do what is going to make you happy.
Although the remarks may hurt it is
something that just may happen. For those that are going through this
joining a tubal reversal message board may be very helpful. Each and
every day couples are facing this dilemma. They are so excited to be
approaching the chance to have a child together that they want to
share it with the world. Other couples using these message boards
will understand exactly what you are going through. Gaining support
is much easier when others understand what you are going through.
A search on any one of the Internet
search engines will give you a list of the top tubal reversal message
boards. Often, just reading makes a couple feel better because it is
apparent that you are not the only couple facing this issue. Do not
be afraid to get to know those who are posting. Many couples have
become life long friends when meeting on this type of message board.