Tubal Reversal and Coping With Miscarriage

After the long stretch of planning the tubal reversal surgery the time to begin trying to conceive has finally arrived. The couple is excited to begin the newest part of their journey and hopefully a positive pregnancy test will be in the near future.

The day arrives and the woman suspects she is pregnant. She performs the pregnancy test and she gets a positive result. The couple, like so many others, has become pregnant after tubal ligation reversal.

The woman announces her pregnancy and the couple cannot believe that their dream is now becoming a reality. Early Pregnancy Protocol is started and the pregnancy is followed very closely. As the numbers are coming in they are not doubling, as they should. Something is not right and the risk of ectopic pregnancy is always there.

The ultrasound is performed and nothing is seen in the fallopian tubes. This is a good sign. But a miscarriage is happening. The couple is heartbroken and must endure the pain that goes with the miscarriage. Often times they will reach out to their friends on the tubal reversal message board and get support to help make it through this heartbreaking time.

The question arises as to whether miscarriage happens more often after tubal ligation reversal. The answer is no. But, after tubal reversal and learning the body signals through each cycle of trying to conceive many use a pregnancy test much earlier than most women would. They are aware of many pregnancies before a period is even missed. Thus, more tubal reversal women know they are pregnant much earlier and know when they begin to bleed that they were in fact pregnant.

The risk of ectopic pregnancy is slightly higher after tubal reversal but not miscarriage. Many couples do question this and rightly so. Any couple that has been through this journey should question this.

Is miscarriage different because a couple has had a tubal reversal? It may be considering so much has been done to restore fertility. Does the emotional pain hurt more for the reversal couple? There is not a person that can answer what is in another’s heart. But pain it is.

Whether a couple conceives “normally” or whether with the help of tubal ligation reversal a miscarriage is still losing a child. The pain goes deep and only time can heal this. There are people who will say things to help lessen the pain and most times it doesn’t help.

The one biggest thing someone can say to someone who has miscarried is that they are there is they need someone to talk to. The pain is what it is and this something that every Mother that has a miscarriage has to face and work through.

The important thing to remember is that although couples may suffer miscarriages they go on to have healthy children. Dreams do come true.